17. ADHD stigma, when to advocate, and why re-parenting yourself helps

Your ADHD Besties

Hiii cutest ADHD loves!
In today's episode:
• We talk about the highs of kid-free holidays with friends and the lows of losing your 🧳 on the trip home (💌 don't forget to send Tara your triumphant stories of lost things you found months/years later - DM us on IG @adhdbestiespodcast!)
• Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer a cute voice message from Holly asking how to advocate for herself after a recent ADHD diagnosis. Our discussion brings up some important questions: When people say ADHD is just laziness, how should we respond? What if advocating feels exhausting? Is it okay to walk away from some conversations without speaking up? Are there different ways to advocate if in-person feels too intense?
• Divergent Dilemma #2 - an anon listener shares a recent moment during a vacation where she felt judged by a passive-aggressive comment by her mother-in-law. We talk about emotional regulation when ADHDers feel misunderstood or judged, and Tara & Grace share how learning to re-parent ourselves has been sooo helpful in moments like this.
• We're putting on our cleats and warming up for this week's Ireggy Seggy... 🥇 The ADHD Olympics 🥇 where we bring you along with us to watch the highly-anticipated event: the room cleaning marathon, where ADHDers compete to see who can get the most distracted while cleaning. Our competitors are fiercer than ever, and pulling out techniques we've never seen before - so tune in for all the on-field (court?) action! 🏃‍♀️🧹🧺✨
RECOMMENDATIONS:
• Tara recommends cast iron frypans/skillets as an easy way to up your iron intake (important since ADHDers are often low in iron).
• Grace recommends actually using the weighted blanket you impulse-purchased back when you got diagnosed - it's doing wonders for regulating her nervous system and helping with deep sleep.
Enjoyyy this episode, and we'll be back in your cute little👂's next MONDAY with our next instalment of our new mini-series, Your ADHD Island! 🏝️
Sending so much love!
Tara & Grace xx
(don't RSD!)

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