144: The Power of Asking for Help: Guest Beverley Poole

Self Belief Unsquashed

Business mentor Beverley Poole gets real about the power of asking for help and we explore the challenge of asking for help. Beverley starts by sharing her unsquashing journey - she shares her experiences of working in a male-dominated environment and dealing with a difficult marriage and being a single parent. We talk about the importance of resilience, reflection, and gratitude in overcoming these challenges. Beverley emphasizes the need for a trusted support system and the value of living by one's own values. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the importance of communication, authenticity, and seeking support for personal and professional growth.

Beverley shares her insights such as:

The Stop Start Continue method

The 'who' and the 'woo-woo' people in your tribe!

Scaffolding (theory of psychology)

The stages of child development - and the challenges of lockdown.

She refers to my TEDx Talk - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy -

and a poem - A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime. - this is that poem:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

~ Author Unknown

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