Were You Close? Always A Sibling With Annie Sklaver Orenstein

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In this episode we talk with Annie Sklaver Orenstein, author of Always A Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners. Annie talks about her older brother, Ben, who died when he was deployed in Afghanistan, and how his sudden death reshaped her understanding of grief and loss. They discuss the unique challenges of sibling loss and how Annie ultimately decided to write the book she wished she had when Ben died.

We Discuss:

Annie’s relationship with her brother Ben and his role in her life
The day Annie learned of Ben’s death and the immediate aftermath
How grief intersected with anxiety
The unique and often overlooked experience of grieving a sibling
Writing Always A Sibling and the need for more grief resources for siblings
The complexities of sibling grief in complicated relationships
The impact of signs from Ben and how Annie learned to find comfort in them
Navigating the question, "Were you close?"
Coping with grief while navigating major life milestones, such as becoming a parent

Resources Mentioned:

Annie Sklaver Orenstein’s book: Always A Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners (Available on Amazon, Bookshop.org, and local bookstores)
Dougy Center's grief resources and support programs (www.dougy.org)

Connect with Annie Sklaver Orenstein:

Instagram: @anniesklaverorenstein

Get in Touch with Us:

Email: griefoutloud@dougy.org
Website: www.dougy.org

Want to Support the Show?

Follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen
Leave us a rating & review

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#Bereavement #Children #Grief #Loss #Parenting #Fitness #The Dougy Center #Society #Mental Health

Were You Close? Always A Sibling With Annie Sklaver Orenstein

Grief Out Loud

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We Discuss:

Annie’s relationship with her brother Ben and his role in her life
The day Annie learned of Ben’s death and the immediate aftermath
How grief intersected with anxiety
The unique and often overlooked experience of grieving a sibling
Writing Always A Sibling and the need for more grief resources for siblings
The complexities of sibling grief in complicated relationships
The impact of signs from Ben and how Annie learned to find comfort in them
Navigating the question, "Were you close?"
Coping with grief while navigating major life milestones, such as becoming a parent

Resources Mentioned:

Annie Sklaver Orenstein’s book: Always A Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners (Available on Amazon, Bookshop.org, and local bookstores)
Dougy Center's grief resources and support programs (www.dougy.org)

Connect with Annie Sklaver Orenstein:

Instagram: @anniesklaverorenstein

Get in Touch with Us:

Email: griefoutloud@dougy.org
Website: www.dougy.org

Want to Support the Show?

Follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen
Leave us a rating & review

318 episod

#Bereavement #Children #Grief #Loss #Parenting #Fitness #The Dougy Center #Society #Mental Health

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What Now? Carla Fernandez & Renegade Grief 43:48

3 days ago43:48

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In this episode of Grief Out Loud , we welcome back Carla Fernandez , co-founder of The Dinner Party , to talk about her new book, Renegade Grief , in which she explores the question: "Now what? What are we supposed to do after someone dies?" Carla reflects on the death of her father, the unconventional paths she’s taken to process her grief, and how The Dinner Party came together from a desire to create non-traditional spaces for young adults navigating loss. In this conversation we delve into the dominant narratives around grief — and how the few that do exist may not fit for most of us. From potluck meals to altar building, Carla shares creative ways people can honor their grief and build community at the same time. We discuss: The inspiration behind Renegade Grief and why Carla wished this book existed when her dad died. How traditional grief support spaces often don’t work for young adults. The origin story of The Dinner Party , and how one dinner with friends who “get it” can change everything. Why food, memory, and grief are so deeply intertwined. The myth that grief gets “easier after the first year” — and why year two can be even harder. Grief rituals and care practices for both early grief and the long haul. Creating identity-based grief spaces, like LGBTQ+ and BIPOC tables, and why specificity matters in grief support. Finding joy, creativity, and unexpected connection through grief (without forced positivity). Carla Fernandez is the co-founder of The Dinner Party , a community-driven organization that brings together grieving young adults for potluck dinners and meaningful conversations about life after loss. Her new book, Renegade Grief, is a practical and heartfelt guide to building personal rituals and support networks that meet you where you are — not where society says you should be. Resources Mentioned: Renegade Grief (out March 11, 2025) The Dinner Party - Peer grief support for 20 to 45 year-olds The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor The Smell of Rain on Dust by Martín Prechtel The Death of My Two Fathers - Documentary by Sol Guy Connect With Us: Dougy Center Website: dougy.org Email the Show: griefoutloud@dougy.org Listen to All Episodes: Grief Out Loud Podcast Follow us on Instagram and Facebook…

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A Tribute To My Dad - Bryan Jung & This Is Why 43:27

11 days ago43:27

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In this episode Bryan Jung talks about the experience of being only nine years old when his father, a prominent lawyer in the Korean community, was tragically shot by another lawyer. Fifteen months later and just nine days before Bryan’s 11th birthday, his father died. Bryan reflects on the impact of his father’s death, the strength of his family, and how he continues to honor his dad’s legacy. He shares how his grief evolved over time, the role of community support, and the lessons he’s carried into his own life. Bryan also discusses founding This Is Why , an online platform that provides space for individuals who lost a parent as a child or teen to share their stories and find connection. We Discuss: Bryan’s memories of his father and the impact of his death on their family Navigating life after his father’s shooting and the challenges of childhood grief The role of community support and the strength of his mother in keeping the family together How volunteering at Camp Erin deepened his understanding of grief and inspired him to create This Is Why The power of storytelling in grief and his commitment to continuing his father’s legacy Forgiveness and personal growth in the aftermath of tragedy How grief anniversaries and milestones continue to shape his journey Resources & Links: Learn more about This Is Why: thisiswhy.life Connect with This Is Why on social media Information on Camp Erin: elunanetwork.org Dougy Center: dougy.org Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear from you! If you have thoughts on this episode or want to share your own grief journey, email us at griefoutloud@dougy.org .…

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How Many Siblings Do You Have? Navigating Sibling Loss with Judy Lipson 30:28

24 days ago30:28

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In this episode, we talk with Judy Lipson, author of A Celebration of Sisters . Judy shares her journey of sibling loss, reflecting on the deaths of her sisters—Margie, who died of anorexia, and Jane, who died in a car crash—and how their absence shaped her identity. She opens up about the complexities of sibling grief, the impact of Margie's long battle with an eating disorder, and the moment when the grief she had pushed aside for so long finally caught up with her. Through writing, ice skating, and organizing a fundraiser in their honor, Judy found ways to reconnect with her sisters and keep their memory alive. She also discusses the evolving landscape of sibling grief support and how sharing her story has helped others navigate their own losses. We Discuss: Growing up as the middle of three sisters The shock of losing Jane when Judy was 25, and then Margie nine years later The challenges of grieving while balancing responsibilities How ice skating and philanthropy became outlets for her grief The changing landscape of sibling grief support What she’s most proud of in her grief process Resources & Links: Judy Lipson’s Website: judylipson.org Subscribe to Judy’s Substack: judylipson.com Book: A Celebration of Sisters – Available on Amazon and local bookstores Dougy Center Resources: dougy.org…

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When Grief & Betrayal Collide: Jessica Waite’s Story 32:54

5 weeks ago32:54

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When Jessica Waite's husband, Sean, died suddenly, she knew him as a dedicated father to their young son and a loving, engaged spouse. In her book, The Widow’s Guide to Dead Bastards, Jessica reveals the shock and heartbreak of discovering Sean's double life. What began as a devastating loss quickly became even more complex as she uncovered the many secrets he had kept—hidden debt, drug use, and infidelity. Jessica talks about the rage, confusion, and emotional turmoil of grieving someone you love while simultaneously reckoning with the truth of who they really were. She reflects on anger as a catalyst for change, what she learned about parenting her son through his grief, and how ultimately she found a way back to herself. We disuss: The shock of uncovering a Sean's secrets after his death The role of anger in grief Navigating single parenthood while managing the weight of betrayal The complexity of holding both love and hurt for Sean The social pressures to maintain the image of someone who has died How humor and writing helped Jessica process her experience Resources & Links: Connect with Jessica Waite on Substack: The Widow’s Guide To Purchase The Widow’s Guide to Dead Bastards online Learn more about grief support at Dougy Center Support Grief Out Loud: Grief Out Loud is produced by the Dougy Center, the National Grief Center for Children and Families. This podcast is sponsored in part by the Chester Stephan Endowment Fund. For more grief resources, visit dougy.org . Join the Conversation: Have thoughts on this episode? Email us at griefoutloud@dougy.org . Thank you for being part of our community!…

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Were You Close? Always A Sibling With Annie Sklaver Orenstein 41:26

6 weeks ago41:26

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In this episode we talk with Annie Sklaver Orenstein , author of Always A Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners . Annie talks about her older brother, Ben, who died when he was deployed in Afghanistan, and how his sudden death reshaped her understanding of grief and loss. They discuss the unique challenges of sibling loss and how Annie ultimately decided to write the book she wished she had when Ben died. We Discuss: Annie’s relationship with her brother Ben and his role in her life The day Annie learned of Ben’s death and the immediate aftermath How grief intersected with anxiety The unique and often overlooked experience of grieving a sibling Writing Always A Sibling and the need for more grief resources for siblings The complexities of sibling grief in complicated relationships The impact of signs from Ben and how Annie learned to find comfort in them Navigating the question, "Were you close?" Coping with grief while navigating major life milestones, such as becoming a parent Resources Mentioned: Annie Sklaver Orenstein’s book: Always A Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners (Available on Amazon, Bookshop.org, and local bookstores) Dougy Center's grief resources and support programs ( www.dougy.org ) Connect with Annie Sklaver Orenstein: Instagram: @anniesklaverorenstein Get in Touch with Us: Email: griefoutloud@dougy.org Website: www.dougy.org Want to Support the Show? Follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen Leave us a rating & review…

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What Remains: Rupert Callender on Grief, Rituals, and Redefining Funerals 44:37

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In this episode, we talk with Ru Callender , author of What Remains: Life, Death, and the Human Art of Undertaking . Ru shares his personal experience with profound childhood loss to becoming a self-proclaimed radical undertaker. We also discuss the impact of grief at different life stages, how participation in funerals can be helpful for children, and reimagining rituals to accurately reflect the life of the person who died. Main topics: Parental Loss and Early Grief: Ru reflects on the loss of his father at age 7 and his mother in his 20s, sharing how these defining losses shaped his perspective on death and grief. Boarding School and Emotional Austerity: The impact of being sent away shortly after his father’s death. Becoming a Radical Undertaker: After a chance encounter with a TV program, Ru was inspired to challenge conventional funeral practices and embrace more personal, inclusive rituals. Children and Grief: Why including children in funerals can be helpful, offering them tangible ways to process and revisit their grief. Radical Funeral Planning: Ru’s vision for end-of-life ceremonies, including his own desire for a midsummer funeral pyre, and how he helps families create ceremonies that resonate deeply. The Role of Grief in Life: How grief manifests and resurfaces, and the creative ways Ru has processed his own grief through rituals and art. Resources Mentioned: What Remains: Life, Death, and the Human Art of Undertaking by Ru Callender Dougy Center’s grief support resources: www.dougy.org Join the Conversation: Have thoughts about this episode? Email Jana at griefoutloud@dougy.org or connect with Dougy Center on social media. Don’t forget to rate and review the show on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to share what it means to you.…

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Shatterproof: Telling The Truth About Grief with Lauren Sisler 50:48

9 weeks ago50:48

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Grief can be shattering - and it can also reveal unexpected strength and resilience. In this episode, we’re joined by Lauren Sisler , award-winning sports broadcaster, ESPN Sideline reporter, and author of Shatterproof: How I Overcame the Shame of Losing My Parents to Opioid Addiction (and Found my Sideline Shimmy) . Lauren shares her powerful story of losing her parents, who died within hours of each other during her freshman year of college, and how grief, fear, and shame, kept her from telling her story. Lauren discusses: The initial shock of loss. How grief evolved for her over the years and the tools that helped. The power of sharing her story and connecting with others who’ve experienced loss. Insights from her book Shatterproof, including ways she's found to stay connected to her parents. Follow Lauren on IG . Thanks for Listening! If you found this episode meaningful, consider leaving a review or sharing it with someone who might benefit from it. Let’s keep the conversation about grief going.…

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It's Okay That It's Not The Same - Grief At The Holidays 28:09

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[This episode originally aired December, 2023] This time of year can be grueling for anyone, but particularly for those who are grieving. So, each year we put out an episode to help you feel less alone and hopefully more equipped to traverse the next few weeks. Today's guest, Melissa Peede Thompson, M.S., is a Grief Services Coordinator at Dougy Center. While she has lots of professional knowledge in this realm, we asked her to talk about her personal experience of grieving during the holidays. Melissa was six when her sister died of gun violence. She was 13 when her father died in a motorcycle accident. And she was a young adult when her grandparents died. Each loss shaped - and continues to shape - how Melissa and her family approach this time of year. We discuss: How her sister's death impacted her parents at the holidays What she remembers about the first Christmas after her dad died Grieving for her her grandparents before they died How the holidays can feel empty, even when the house is full Melissa's realization that grief has left her a little bit "Grinchy" What she's doing to shift how she thinks and feels about the holidays Learning to appreciate being able to spend time with the people who are still alive Why St. Patrick's Day became her favorite holiday Taking the pressure off trying to make the holidays feel the same after someone dies If you missed our past Holidays & Grief episodes, be sure to listen to Ep. 27 , 98 , 174 , 240. And our latest one, 306 . Tips For Getting Through the Holidays & Holiday Plan Worksheet.…

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It Can Be So Awkward - Holidays & Grief 42:57

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It's our annual holidays and grief episode! In the past we've focused on more tangible tips and suggestions for supporting kids, teens, and adults during this time of year. This year we decided to focus on one person's lived experience with how the holidays can get really awkward when grief is involved. Ana Salazar-Walsh was just nineteen when her father died in a mountain climbing accident. A few months later, it was the first holiday season after his death, but it was actually the third Christmas in a row shadowed by grief. Two years earlier, her father left their family to start a new one with a woman he had fallen in love with. All of this, combined with moving from Spain to the United States for college, made for three very uncomfortable and awkward holiday seasons. Now that Ana is married with her own children, she's finding ways to bring her father's memory into their holiday celebrations. Looking for our past episodes about the holidays & grief? Check out: Ep. 272 It’s Okay That It’s Not The Same – Grief At The Holidays Ep. 240 The [Not] Most Wonderful Time Of The Year – Holidays & Grief Mini-Episode Ep. 98 Under Pressure – Grief & December Holidays…

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Grieving While Parenting - Reshma Kearney 43:35

16 weeks ago43:35

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When Reshma Kearney's husband Sean died of suicide, her immediate concern was their three young children. She needed to figure out how to talk to them about his death - and his life - all while meeting their emotional and physical needs. Pretty quickly she realized her needs also had to be met so she could keep showing up for them. Reshma and her kids had an established mindfulness practice before Sean's death and those practices became integral for tending to their grief and finding ways to keep engaging with life. Note: this episode discusses suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. You can call 988 or text HELLO to 741-741. Connect with Reshma on IG. Listen to her kids on Ep. 303: Let's Hear It For The Kids - Grief In Their Own Words .…

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They Are Part Of Our Family - Grieving A Pet 51:21

17 weeks ago51:21

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In May of 2024, Christine Passo's beloved dog, Maya Ray, took her last breath in Christine's arms. This wasn't the first time Christine experienced loss or trauma, but the grief she felt and continues to feel for Maya Ray caught her off guard with its intensity and depth. We talk about Maya Ray's last day, how Christine's other dog, Zoe, grieved, and how Christine and her partner are finding ways to continue honoring Maya Ray's life and her place in their family. Christine Passo is a coach who specializes in supporting women through life changes, many of which come with grief. She is also the co-author of My Fur Baby Wrote This Book and host of the Unconscious Evolution podcast. Be sure to check out our previous episode on grieving for a pet - Ep. 238 "These Relationships Matter."…

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Let's Hear It For The Kids - Grief In Their Own Words 24:47

18 weeks ago24:47

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In honor of Children's Grief Awareness month, we asked kids and teens to talk about grief in their own words. This compilation episode includes clips from children and teens reflecting on their people who died, their varied responses to loss, and what they hope grief will feel like in future. Thank you to all the children and teens who contributed to this episode - and to their parents and caregivers for facilitating the recording process. Want to learn more? Register now for Too Young To Grieve? Dougy Center's Children's Grief Awareness Day webinar. Thursday, November 21st, 2024 - 10 - 11:30 am PST Be part of our #UnderstandGrief campaign Follow November's Flip The Script posts on social media…

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Losing Them More Than Once - When Your Ex Dies 49:03

20 weeks ago49:03

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No one is perfect and no one is just one story, but how do you grieve when the person who died was so different than the person you fell in love with? When Jenn met and fell in love with Jesse, she never imagined their relationship would unravel due to his struggles with mental health and alcohol use disorder. Jesse died in 2020 and Jenn's been left to reconcile the man she loved with the one she eventually had to leave. His death also left her unsure where her grief fits in the world of bereavement and how to support their son, whose grief is complicated by the impact his father's illness had on their relationship. Dr. Jennifer Vriend is a Licensed Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychologist and co-host of The Coping Toolbox podcast .…

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"We Never Talked About Her Again" - Susan Lieu & The Manicurist's Daughter 52:52

21 weeks ago52:52

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Susan Lieu , is a Vietnamese-American author, playwright, and performer. When Susan was 11 years old, her mother died from a routine plastic surgery. After she died, Susan's family stopped talking about her mother, leaving Susan on her own to figure out what happened and how to feel. Susan's debut memoir, The Manicurist’s Daughter , recounts her quest to get to know her mother, avenge her death, and try with all her might to get her family to open up about it all. Susan is a compelling and accomplished storyteller, co-hosting The Model Minority Moms podcast and speaking at TEDx , the Smithsonian, and at universities and companies across the country. Her memoir is an Apple Book of the Month, most anticipated 2024 book by Elle Magazine and Goodreads, and has been featured on The New York Times, NPR Books, and The Washington Post. Read her press here . Follow Susan on IG @susanlieu…

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Grieving The Relationship We Didn't Get To Have - Maegan Parker Brooks, PhD 49:12

23 weeks ago49:12

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It's our 300th episode and this conversation with Maegan Parker Brooks, PhD, is the perfect one to honor that milestone. Maegan is an Associate Professor at Willamette University and a volunteer at Dougy Center where she facilitates a peer grief support group for adult caregivers of teens who are grieving. Maegan is also a daughter and sister, grieving the deaths of her father, her sister Emily, and her mother. In this conversation we talk about grief and estranged relationships, relationships impacted by substance use, non-death losses, memorialization during the pandemic, and all the ways we talk to one another - and ourselves - about that grief. Maegan Parker Brooks, PhD is an Associate Professor and Chair of the Civic Communication & Media Department at Willamette University. At Willamette, Maegan teaches courses in Death and Grief Communication and facilitates the Diversity of Loss grief support group. Beyond Willamette, Maegan co-facilitates a group for adult caregivers of grieving teens at The Dougy Center and she recently earned a certificate in Arts-Assisted Grief Therapy at the Portland Institute for Loss & Transition. Related Articles: Brooks, Maegan P. "Listening to Grief." Willamette. , 1 Feb. 2024, pp. 20-21. Brooks, Maegan P. “Listening to Layers of Loss.” Journal of Autoethnography, 4, 2 (2023): 174-192. Want to help us celebrate our 300th episode? Be sure to follow the show and give us a rating/review on whatever platform you use to listen! Grief Out Loud® is a production of Dougy Center, The National Grief Center for Children & Families .…

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