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#4 Encore Episode- Using Relationship Contracts
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This week, we have Encore Episode #4 where Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Deb Hallisey. Debra lost her job due to her caregiving responsibilities with her mother and, as a result, founded Advocate for Mom and Dad, LLC. In addition, based on her experiences, she has authored a book that provides a step-by-step guide for discussing relationship issues. Debra uses personal stories to illustrate how these techniques healed her relationship with her mom. She is also a Certified Caregiving Consultant, Educator, Advocate, and Certified Dementia Practitioner. She provides the following insights:
- Caregiving changes all your relationships.
- Summarize what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.
- Do things where you feel heard, understood, and validated.
- Unexposed expectations and boundaries need to be addressed.
- When asking for a change, do not end with a yes or no question.
- Recognize the frustration and ask, “Is this a reasonable request?”
- Self-awareness is key.
- Use the drip method when asking for help.
- When others are helping ask yourself, Is it ‘wrong’ or just ‘different’?
- Think about what can help you, write it down, and make it a S.M.A.R.T. ask.
- Write down the way they want to live and figure out if that is something you or someone else can do.
- Find resources from Debra at www.advocateformomanddad.com, and her book, Your Caregiving Relationship Contract, is available on Amazon.
- Caregivers, you are doing the best you can, so give yourself grace.
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Manage episode 349272824 series 2859854
This week, we have Encore Episode #4 where Rayna Neises, your host, talks with Deb Hallisey. Debra lost her job due to her caregiving responsibilities with her mother and, as a result, founded Advocate for Mom and Dad, LLC. In addition, based on her experiences, she has authored a book that provides a step-by-step guide for discussing relationship issues. Debra uses personal stories to illustrate how these techniques healed her relationship with her mom. She is also a Certified Caregiving Consultant, Educator, Advocate, and Certified Dementia Practitioner. She provides the following insights:
- Caregiving changes all your relationships.
- Summarize what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.
- Do things where you feel heard, understood, and validated.
- Unexposed expectations and boundaries need to be addressed.
- When asking for a change, do not end with a yes or no question.
- Recognize the frustration and ask, “Is this a reasonable request?”
- Self-awareness is key.
- Use the drip method when asking for help.
- When others are helping ask yourself, Is it ‘wrong’ or just ‘different’?
- Think about what can help you, write it down, and make it a S.M.A.R.T. ask.
- Write down the way they want to live and figure out if that is something you or someone else can do.
- Find resources from Debra at www.advocateformomanddad.com, and her book, Your Caregiving Relationship Contract, is available on Amazon.
- Caregivers, you are doing the best you can, so give yourself grace.
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