14. Finding Your Perfect Match: What Does Modern Research Say? What Does the Bible Say?

The Queer Christian: Navigating Faith, Church and the Bible

In this episode: I discuss with Grandma Clair three things that predict successful relationships and marriages.

From The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/

· The Magic Relationship Ratio (used in Podcast) https://youtu.be/Xw9SE315GtA

· Four horsemen https://youtu.be/1o30Ps-_8is

· “Bids” https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

· Singles newsletter https://www.gottman.com/singles-newsletter/

12 Year Study of same-sex relationships:

· https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-12-year-study/

· https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-makes-same-sex-relationships-succeed-or-fail/

Smiling

· https://marriagecounselingblog.com/marriage-counseling/6-of-the-most-interesting-research-studies-about-love-and-marriage/

· https://youtu.be/jp42DM0x1Fc

· http://tiny.cc/Smile2

· http://tiny.cc/Smile3

· http://tiny.cc/Smile4

· http://tiny.cc/Smile5

First date questions: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/first-date-questions/

Marriages from online dating: https://www.science.org/content/article/online-dating-really-can-lead-love

Psychopathy (Don’t Marry)

· https://www.mha-em.org/im-looking-for/mental-health-knowledge-base/conditions/127-psychopathy-vs-sociopathy

· https://www.bikellaw.com/blog/37/is-your-husband-a-psychopath/

Gratitude

· http://tiny.cc/Thanks1

· http://tiny.cc/Thanks2

The Power of saying: “thank you” in marriages

· https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/10/151021170814.htm

· https://www.chicagotribune.com/columns/heidi-stevens/ct-gratitude-marital-happiness-balancing-act-heidi-stevens-20151028-column.html

Top things couples fight about

https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/the-10-things-every-couple-will-fight-about-at-some-point.html

Scripture used in this episode

· Proverbs 15: 30

· Galatians 5: 22-23

· Matthew 25: 40

· Ephesians 4: 29

· 1 Peter 3: 10

· 1 Thessalonians 5: 11

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