107 Mars vs Venus and Expectations are we being unrealistic and expecting too much for ourselves?

RealTalk with The6thman

Venus and Mars repeat their cycles and patterns and this one will echo back to 1985, in which many of us were still playing with our Barbies and G.I. Joes happily oblivious to any sort of relationship drama. But the question for us to ask is: Even as children, were we already becoming conditioned for a specific pattern of relationships? For many of us, we need to work through certain lessons and areas of relationships in order to actually move ahead into a more healthy and balanced partnership. Basically, we have to walk through the darkness in order to get to the light. If we doubt our worthiness when it comes to unconditional love and acceptance then we will continually attract those people who challenge us to love ourselves deeper. Yet, likewise, once we finally step into a place of clearer focus about who we are and the goals that surround us, we will be able to welcome that conscious healthy love into our lives. Mars likes to do, preferably now, and is very action-orientated. Venus, on the other hand, is more subtle and discriminates about what she does or doesn’t like. Their polarity is what actually achieves their balance. No one wants to be with someone that is just like us and it’s this energy that Mars and Venus remind us of. A man doesn’t fall for a woman because of how masculine she is; rather, he falls for her shining sense of femininity, and the same is true for women. Our expectations can get the better of us when we expect more than what is realistic in a given situation. We might expect our partners to live up to what we see in romance films, our jobs to be idealized versions we had as children, or even our lives to match up to what we see on Instagram. Our expectations can create significant stress when they don't match up to reality. Also consider how social media can greatly contribute to this: we compare our own worst moments (those not deemed to be shareable online) to others' best moments, which very often are filtered to seem perfect. We may not even realize this mismatched comparison. It's important to take a deeper look into how your expectations stack up to reality (and how your mood is affected because of this). #therealtalkpodcast