Embracing Anger: How to Harness Its Purpose and Power
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We are taught that anger is “bad”. It’s not! No emotion or feeling is bad. They all have a purpose and anger is no different. Anger is often the surface emotion of a feeling or feelings that we’re feeling under the surface. So don’t be afraid of your anger. That said, don’t hide from it either. What is happening that is making you feel angry? Let your anger tell you what’s happening underneath your other emotions. Let your anger help you take the action you need to change what isn’t working in your life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Anger is a secondary emotion. The primary underlying emotions for anger are fear, loss, sadness, and shame.
- There are three main approaches to manage your anger:
- Express your anger in a healthy, assertive way; not aggressively.
- Suppress your anger, again in a positive way, where you convert your anger – i.e. – take a positive action – or redirect it and focus on something positive.
- Use calming techniques to calm down internally, like breathing techniques.
BEST MOMENTS
Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath. -Eckhart Tolle
Anger is a sign that something needs to change. – unknown
Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. -Buddha
It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt. -Tom Gates
Tears of despair can be fuel. Thunders of anger can be light. -Maxime Legace
Anger expressed in a healthy and positive way means that we channel emotional anger towards resolution not attack. -Byron R. Pulsifer
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Control Anger Before It Controls You: https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control#:~:text=The%20three%20main%20approaches%20are,and%20focus%20on%20something%20positive.
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ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
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