2.20 Margo Watson is joined by Gloria Boberg and Dr. Tres Tanner to discuss the unique and contributing role of families

Currents: the Big Ocean Women Podcast

We greatly value the unique and contributing role of families.

Margo Watson is joined by Gloria Boberg and Dr. Tres Tanner.

“Families are the unit in society which is especially comprised of a man and a woman who are husband and wife who are bonded so that they can meet each other's physical and emotional needs as well as to, among other things, have the opportunity to procreate and bring children into the world so they can then care for those children” - Dr. Tanner

“The family is the stability of life. When you count on one another, and you form the foundation to build upon and to trust each other and learn from each other. If someone tries to take that apart, to me it’s like they’re trying to pull the power from the family unit.” - Gloria Boberg

“When there is a family nucleus, there’s always a strong foundation when we can support each other, love each other unconditionally. We, then have, love and respect for each other. Through communication, we learn how to make a healthy family.” - Gloria Boberg

“When a woman goes through nine months of carrying that fetus in her uterus and then birthing that child, that involves a high level of sacrifice and pain and commitment, which leads to the kind of motivation that [other people] will never have the same level of commitment as has a mother.” - Dr. Tanner

“One of the cool things about families is that we learn from one another. Parents learn from children as well as children from parents. So it’s a really cool unit of society, where you live together, and you learn together, and you reinforce each other with that unconditional love.” - Dr. Tanner

“You have to understand that a human being is not disposable. You don’t throw anyone away.” - Gloria Boberg

“One of the central reasons why there are so many problems is because of selfishness, and or, related to that is we live in a very much of an individually focused society and so it’s not natural… for people to think in larger terms, and we need to do that.” - Dr. Tanner

“People can and do change, are capable of turning things around… so you need to make sure you always stay focused on the hope that people are capable of learning how to be really strong and effective people, because what happens is once they start to do that, it becomes self reinforcing and they love it and they want to learn more and more and do more things to stay that way.” - Dr Tanner

“For people that have no family, or they have dysfunctional families, that does not mean that you can’t be healthy and build your own family, and that’s really important to remember.” - Gloria Boberg

“Part of building yourself up is to teach and guide other people to help them learn. We can share these experiences by what we know.” - Gloria Boberg

“Going back again to the family unit, it is so critical in the development of individuals, but also in the development of the community around us” - Margo Watson

“There are lots of people in this world that are quite alone, and they don’t have these family networks that they can depend upon, nevertheless, even a person, or a single parent, trying to do their very best to work with a child, without any other family support, can learn to become a very effective family unit, just those two of them, and what happens is when they develop that, and the great feeling of relief and satisfaction that comes, because they’re applying correct principles with one another, and they’re getting tremendous satisfaction from that.” - Dr Tanner

“Anyone out there can realize there are wonderful things that they can do to make their lives better and really find great satisfaction even if they haven’t had the advantage of having had an initial exposure to that.” - Dr. Tanner

“The husband-wife relationship is really the core relationship in life, because if that is going well, they’re in a much better position, that couple, to do a much more effective job of parenting.” - Dr. Tanner

Dr. Tanner’s 6 basic practices for a thriving relationship:

1. Share
2. care
3. Connect
4. Confront
5. Resolve
6. Grow

“Learn how to talk and have respect for each other.” - Gloria Boberg

“Families have to understand there’s give and take, and you have to learn, and you have to learn ways to communicate. I think having your own set of boundaries is important. You also have to understand the perspective of where other people are coming from.” - Gloria Boberg

“There is nothing that can even compare with the kind of benefit to society that happens when you are committed to your children as a mother or your spouse and you can just set the tone of having happy relationships functional people, there’s nothing quite like that and you can feel proud and grateful for the opportunity you have.” - Dr. Tanner

“Look for the good, because there’s a lot of it!” - Dr. Tanner

Dr. Tres Tanner has dedicated his career to strengthening families. He has helped thousands of individuals, couples and families in over 25 years’ experience as a Professional Relationships–Life Coach / Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He also has over 25 years’ experience teaching and training people in Seminars, Workshops, Professional Speaking Engagements, and in undergraduate and graduate University Classes, Marriage Retreats, etc.

Margo Watson is the Director of Outreach Marketing and Fundraising for Big Ocean Women. She has a Masters of Fine Arts Degree in Theatre and a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Communications and Music. Her dynamic talents led her first to critically acclaimed performances in countless Theater and Concert stages around the country as a soprano soloist and lead actress which included musicals, opera, operetta, orchestral works, comedies, movies, commercials and on-camera TV host. These experiences helped prepare her later as a young widow to work in the fields of in-house public relations and marketing for high tech, retail, medical industries and promotion for celebrities, so she could support her young family. Margo has had extensive experience as an on-camera talent, marketing, advertising, public relations-internal and external, public speaking, production, diverse writing for magazines, commercials, press releases, infomercials, books, press kits, speeches and such. She hopes her skills will be useful to help Big Ocean Women spread their mission of empowering women worldwide. She has six adult children and 9 grandchildren which are the most precious gifts to her.