Ep. 187 A Few Oppositional Kid Tips

Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen

Have you ever felt like you're butting heads with your strong-willed kid? Well, you're not alone! Episode 187 shares some fantastic tips for dealing with those headstrong, independent-minded teens we all know and love.

First off, let's celebrate these traits! Heidi reminds us that having a strong sense of self and the ability to think independently are actually superpowers. We're not trying to squash these qualities, just guide them in a positive direction.

Here are some nuggets of wisdom from the episode:

1. Choices, choices, choices! Whenever possible, give your teen options. This could be as simple as "Do you want to ride with your brother or us to the event?" It helps them feel empowered and invested in decisions.
2. Find the 'yes' in the 'no'. When your teen asks for something you're not keen on, try to find a small part you can agree to. For example, if they're always asking to eat out with friends, maybe you can say yes to one meal a week. This approach helps them focus on what they're getting rather than what they're not.
3. Watch your tone! Our teens can be sensitive to authoritative tones, so try to soften your approach. It doesn't mean you're not in charge, just that you're being respectful of their growing autonomy.
4. Invite their input. Ask for their thoughts on family decisions. It shows you value their opinion and helps them practice decision-making skills.

The best part? These strategies can lead to stronger relationships with our teens. Heidi mentioned that her daughter now comes to her for advice on almost everything!

Remember, we're not aiming for perfection here. It's all about finding ways to respect our teens' growing independence while still providing the guidance they need. It takes time and practice, but it's so worth it.

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