Join longtime best friends Gabby Sibaja and Raya Carmona as they share their perspectives on life, love, work and just about everything else. Shared from their experiences as Latina women in their 20’s & 30’s, each episode will dive into a new topic where they offer unfiltered opinions, hilarious anecdotes and genuine advice. With occasional guests, call-in episodes and the personal wisdom Raya and Gabby bring to the show, you’re guaranteed to feel like you’re on FaceTime with a big sister. ...
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Was That Good For You? is a guide to all things sex and relationships. Every week, sex educator Raya Carmona talks openly and honestly with guests on topics ranging from navigating interracial dating to normalizing kinks in the bedroom to the trajectory of becoming a sugar baby. Through candid conversations with friends as well as interviews with leaders in the sexual health field, this show works to destigmatize the sexual journey we are all on. Recurring guests include Raya’s partner Kelen ...
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instagram face, the importance of reading and love island usa
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It’s your favorite type of episode - no theme, just yaps. we discussed love island usa (of course), whether or not we have instagram face and how cultural appropriation plays a part in it, having conviction, and why we as a society must keep reading. follow the show on IG & tiktok @sotruebestiethepodcast…
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are you ready for long term commitment?
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on today's episode we go through the ways we prepared (and dare I say, thrived) in long term commitment with our husbands. before that though, we discuss our love of summer, birth control, and why america needs to bring back malls.follow the show on IG & tiktok @sotruebestiethepodcast
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our worst breakups & how to recover
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we're back and immediately diving into our worst breakups! we go through the best ways to handle a heartbreak as well as the absolute worst ways we've handled them... was it a little toxic? probably. but we've learned from those mistakes and now you can learn from them too. we're just girls, after all. watch the episode on youtube here: https://bit…
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you guys love the episodes where we simply shoot the shit, and we're here to please! for today's yap-filled episode we discuss the taxi cab theory, weird instagram behavior, how we'd handle an alien invasion, and soo much more! watch the episode on youtube here: https://bit.ly/3LVLtTT follow the show on IG & tiktok @sotruebestiethepodcast…
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on today's ep, we sat down to discuss our personal, physical and emotional "glow ups." from becoming more emotionally regulated and confident to finding the perfect skincare routine, we cover everything we've learned as well as what we're still trying to improve. watch the episode on youtube here: https://bit.ly/3LVLtTT follow the show on IG & tikt…
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a conversation with our partners!
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we forced gabby's husband ryan and raya's fiance kelen to finally join us on the show! from how we met and our personal relationship journeys to finding out if the term "if he wanted to he would" is true, the boys answered all of our questions and more for this week's episode. follow the show on IG & tiktok @sotruebestiethepodcast…
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finding your style, micro trends & trying new things
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on today's episode, we discuss our style evolution, not being afraid to try new trends, the prevalence of fleeting micro trends and where we are now in our "style journey." watch the episode on youtube here: https://bit.ly/3LVLtTT follow the show on IG & tiktok @sotruebestiethepodcast
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being a loser in high school, pr relationships & gabby's slam poetry phase
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for this episode of so true bestie, we literally turned the cameras on and just started yapping. no subject, no theme, no thoughts, just vibes. we ended up discussing gabby's slam poetry era, why karaoke needs to be regulated, our thoughts on pr relationships and what we were like in high school (spoiler alert: we were losers). watch the episode on…
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if there's one thing about us, it's that we love to critique. so for this episode of so true bestie, we had listeners submit their dating profiles for us to judge and give advice on. if you've ever been unsure if your profile is an accurate representation of how cool and hot you are, you've come to the right place. don't forget to submit your profi…
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it's time we came clean about the disney actors we've dated while living in LA... for this week's episode of so true bestie, we discuss the ups and downs of dating in your 20's, what we learned along the way, and share our best (and worst) stories. + we spilled about our most "LA" dating experiences. tea!!! watch the episode on youtube here: https:…
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q&a #1 - breakup advice, daily routines & the truth about our friendship
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for so true bestie's first q&a, we answered your most burning questions about navigating a breakup, how to choose a career, the key to longterm female friendship & so much more. watch the episode on youtube here: https://bit.ly/3LVLtTT follow the show on IG & tiktok @sotruebestiethepodcastOleh Raya Carmona, Gabriela Sibaja
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religion, spirituality & soulmates
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on this week's episode of so true bestie, we sit down to discuss religion, spirituality, karma, fate, soulmates and so much more. from how we were raised religiously to what we believe now, we cover the basics of belief and debate whether or not things are truly connected or we're just floating on a chaotic rock. watch the episode on youtube here: …
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for the first episode of "let's gossip," a so true bestie call-in segment, we heard some of our listener's juiciest chisme (spanish for gossip). from ex-girlfriends working in the underground gambling world to family drama involving a copycat cousin, the tea is piping hot today. watch the episode on youtube here: https://bit.ly/3LVLtTT follow the s…
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working for yourself & not being afraid to start from scratch
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should I quit my job to start my own business? is it ever too late to try something new? why does it sometimes feel embarrassing to be a "beginner?" gabby and raya sit down this week to answer those questions and more, as well as reflect on their own professional journeys. gabby discusses her latest creative venture (the good and the bad) and raya …
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how unrealistic beauty standards affect our mental health
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raya and gabby sit down this week to discuss the ways unrealistic beauty standards have affected them, and how they've learned to mitigate those effects through the years. gabby opens up about not fitting the "standard" of western beauty and raya explains what it's like to live with facial dysmorphia. they also talk about the importance of transpar…
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for the premiere episode of so true bestie, gabby and raya sit down to discuss what they've learned about navigating female friendships. while reflecting on their own friendship, they talk about the importance of boundaries, accepting change and why friendship breakups can feel harder than romantic ones. gabby explains "the pizza analogy" & raya ex…
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Is Cheating In Past Relationships A Dealbreaker? - Q&A
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We tackle so many unique questions on this week's Q&A and there's truly something for everyone. One listener is looking for tips on diving into kink for the first time, while someone else wonders if their new boyfriend following Instagram models is a red flag. We also dive into navigating overly-friendly exes as well as whether or not cheating in t…
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Social Media's Effect On Relationships
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This is my first round table episode in over a year! On this week's episode, I had two of my favorite couples over to discuss social media and its effects on relationships. We chat through the pressure to seem perfect, posting about break ups, how to drown out the opinions of others and so much more. Listen to the end for a tangent (although an ext…
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It's okay to be early on in your sexual journey than others. We don't shame around here! If you feel like you need a refresher on sex education, looking for some tips & tricks to be better in bed or are simply just starting out - this is the episode for you! Get tested for STIs here: https://gettested.cdc.gov/ Follow Raya: Instagram: @rayacarmona T…
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Sometimes NOT Communicating Is The Answer - SOLO!
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On this month's solo episode, I discuss how important emotion regulation has become to me, for myself and for the sake of my relationship. I also talk about how sometimes forbearance is the right choice over open communication and how to keep a spark alive even in a long-term relationship. Give it a listen and let me know what you think! Follow Ray…
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Navigating Desire Differences & Owning Your Vanilla-ness feat. Yana Tallon-Hicks
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I had couples & relationships therapist, consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator Yana Tallon-Hicks on the show this week! We discussed how to navigate desire differences in a relationship, understanding the root of your kinks, how your sex life affects the rest of our life and why it's okay to own your vanilla-ness even in this new ultra sex-p…
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You Can't Punish Someone For Not Loving You - Q&A
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This month's Q&A is one of those episodes where there's something for everyone. If any of the advice you hear today might resonate with someone you know, send it along for the greater good of humanity! We answer questions such as: What should I do about a friend who's too flirty with my partner? If a guy is too nice, should I worry he'll eventually…
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Vaginal Health 101 feat. The Yoni Nutritionist
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I had Adrienne, also known as The Yoni Nutritionist, on the show today for a crash course in vaginal and sexual health. Adrienne is a certified nutritional practitioner who specializes in holistic nutrition & wellness for common, chronic vaginal infections like yeast infections, candida overgrowth, bacterial vaginosis, UTI’s, and STI's. We talk abo…
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Having The Safe Sex Conversation feat. Safe Slut
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This week I had the incredible Tricia Wise, also known as Safe Slut, on the show. We talked about life with genital herpes, how reiki can help heal sexual traumas and navigating the safe sex conversation. Tricia and I discuss red flags when it comes to talking about STIs and the importance of setting clear boundaries with people. See more from Tric…
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The Emotional Side of Being a Cam Girl feat. Banksie
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I had award-winning global CamStar, Lindsey Banks, on the show today. Banksie, who is a veteran in the adult industry, has also been on multiple panels, hosted seminars and works as a voice for cam girls, sex workers and Latinx creators in the community. We discuss her career trajectory, incorporating virtual reality into sex work, the emotional si…
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Boyfriend Is Too Big, Navigating Pronouns Around Family, & Snooping Gone Wrong - Q&A!
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For our last Q&A of the year, Gabby and I tackle a ton of listener-submitted questions! We discuss how to work around a penis that's too big, navigating a partner's pronouns around family during the holidays, and why the classic saying "Those who look will find" is so true when it comes to snooping. Follow Gabby! https://linktr.ee/gabbysibaja Follo…
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Overcoming Sexual Anxiety feat. Dr. Tara
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I had the incredible Dr. Tara on the show today to discuss overcoming sexual anxiety. Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, sex and relationship coach, and the host of the Luvbites podcast. We also discuss the idea that dating is a learned skill …
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Addictive Relationships & The Need For Validation - SOLO
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This is an episode that starts off as one thing, goes into an entirely different thing and then somehow comes full circle and works relatively cohesively. C'est la vie. I discuss the science behind why unhealthy relationships can be so addicting, our need for validation and how it can be traced back to childhood, the importance of rejecting normalc…
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Dating While Trans, Bisexuality, & Navigating Fetishization
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Kristofer and I became online friends over the pandemic and after reading his essay "Dad Used To Have Boobs (And They Were Kind Of Big)," I knew I wanted to have him on the show. Kristofer is a comic, screenwriter, and Twitter personality, and today he joined me to discuss his experience dating while trans, our thoughts on the nuance of bisexuality…
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How To Give Better Oral, Car Sex 101 & When To Call It Quits - Q&A!
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Gabby is back for this month's listener-submitted Q&A and let me tell you - this is a crazy one. We got more personal than ever while discussing the best blowjob techniques and how to make car sex amazing (I told the story about the time I had spite sex in a berry field). We also answered some more serious questions involving sexual compatibility, …
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Boyfriend Is Too Big, Navigating Pronouns Around Family & Snooping Gone Wrong - Q&A!
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For our last Q&A of the year, Gabby and I tackle a ton of listener-submitted questions! We discuss how to work around a penis that's too big, navigating a partner's pronouns around family during the holidays, and why the classic saying "Those who look will find" is so true when it comes to snooping. Follow Gabby! https://linktr.ee/gabbysibaja Follo…
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The Art Of The Dominatrix
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I had professional dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill on the show today to walk us through life as a dominatrix with over 10 years of experience. From how she got started to the power dynamics around dungeons, this episode feels like a crash course on the world of professional BDSM. Lucy also explains the art of mindful domination, boundary setting and heal…
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This was one of the most fun episodes I've ever recorded on the show. I invited my ex (and now very good friend) Chris to join me for a very candid conversation about our previous relationship. We broke up many years ago, and although it was quite a serious relationship, looking back with the hindsight and maturity that time has given us was so int…
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The Glamorization Of Stripping, Escorting & Online Sex Work
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My good friend Cici joins me today to chat about all things sex work. Cici has spent time as a dancer, an escort and an OnlyFans creator, so we discuss the pros and cons of doing one type of sex work versus another. We also talk through the difficulties that can arise behind the scenes in the world of stripping as well as how our work on OnlyFans h…
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Keeping An Ex's Nudes, How To Ask For Better Sex, Watching Gay Porn - Q&A!
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Gabby joins the show for our first monthly Q&A of the season and we've got some wild listener-submitted questions. How unethical is it to masturbate to an ex's nudes? Does watching gay porn make me gay? How do I ask for better sex without upsetting my partner? We answer all of that and more on today's episode! Follow Gabby on Instagram at instagram…
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Life With Herpes feat. Suzbub
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Of all the STIs, why does herpes carry such a heavy stigma? When did it become the sexual boogeyman? Suzanna Brusikiewicz is determined to change that. In 2021, she came out publicly about having HSV2 and has been working ever since to spread awareness as well as unconditional love and self-acceptance. Alongside her work as a sensual guide, Suz wor…
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The Media is Making Your Sex Worse
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No one knows marketing and media more than this week’s guest and my good friend Kristi. We met during our time working at Playboy, so we kick off the episode by discussing the #1 question we used to get: Where is line between objectification and sexual empowerment? We also talk about the harmful effects of porn & romcoms, the times we let media dic…
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The Pressure Of Perfection - SOLO EP!
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It's my first episode of the new season! Solo episodes are hard for me. I suffer from serious imposter syndrome. As you can see from the title of the episode, this is basically a stream of consciousness in regards to the pressure I (and most people) put on ourselves - whether that's in relationships, the bedroom, or just life in general. I talk abo…
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Co-Creative vs. Performative Sex
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This week, I'm joined by Portia - the founder & creator of Froetic Sexology. We discuss the ways in which we were taught about sex as well as how it can be improved for generations going forward. Portia explains how to bring mindfulness and meditation practices into sexual experiences, and how it can lead to even better orgasms. Toward the end, we …
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Better Sex (& Love) Through MDMA
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This week, I'm so excited to be joined by Charles & Shelley Wininger. Over the past 20 years, Charley, 71 years old, and Shelley, 69 years old, have found MDMA to act as a kind of romantic glue for them. They've used it intentionally to enhance and deepen their bond, with its positive effects on their marriage accumulating over time. They explain t…
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I had porn collage artist Lisa Be and photographer Rina Mov on to discuss what it means to be a "nasty woman." We debate the best time to start being open about bodily functions with a new partner as well as the standards women are held to when it comes to those things. We also discuss why men are uncomfortable around women who openly like sex and …
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Discussing Kink With A 24/7 Collared Submissive
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This week, I chat with BDSM educator & 24/7 collared submissive Lina Dune to dispel some myths surrounding BDSM and the kink community, including how safe it is, how it stresses consent and communication, and how aspects of kink can help with everyone's sexual experiences, even those not interested in BDSM. Check out Lina's Patreon here! For more o…
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This week, I'm joined by musician Bonavega to discuss coming from a religious background and breaking out of that shell. Bonavega details how he's found himself through his music, including not conforming to any gender or sexuality norms and even the subject matter he sings about, as well as how this personal exploration has actually led to healthi…
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Writing Songs About Exes with almondmilkhunni
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This week, I had my friend and musician almondmilkhunni on discuss her dating life and explosive career, the pressure she feels from being on social media, and how she became a de facto voice for dancers and sex workers. We also discuss the divide among OnlyFans users and she explains why she avoids dating Cancer men. Listen to almondmilkhunni's mu…
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Doomsturbating & Beginner Sex Toys with Gabrielle Kassel
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This week, I talk with sex journalist and sex toy enthusiast Gabrielle Kassel to chat about masturbation, sex toys, and so much more. Gabrielle explains where and how a beginner user can start incorporating toys, and gives her recommendations for toys you may have never heard of. We also discuss Doomsturbating, talking about sex outside of the bedr…
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Ethical Non-Monogamy 101 with Gabrielle Smith
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This week, writer and polyamory ethical non-monogamy resource Gabrielle Smith joins me to discuss how to navigate opening a relationship to polyamory and/or ethical non-monogamy and how to set appropriate boundaries to ensure success in your relationship. We chat about the issues that don't allow people to comprehend opening a relationship, includi…
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This week, I had author and certified witch Gabriela Herstik on to discuss Sex Magick (not to be confused with "magic") and how sexual energy is crucial in her work. We also explore how Magick can work for everyone in their everyday lives, no matter what your background or what you believe in, and how to use your energies to find love and success. …
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Cuckolding, Sex Ed & More With Liz Goldwyn
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This week, I'm joined by author and host of "The Sex Ed" Podcast, Liz Goldwyn to discuss how there is no such thing as a late bloomer, the many short-comings of modern sex education, and why most of the concepts around virginity are just social constructs. Plus, Liz answers some listener-submitted questions, including how to explore new avenues of …
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“Hot Guy” Stereotypes: The Rockstar
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This week, I chat with musician Ryan Scott Graham, a member of State Champs (and Gabby's boyfriend)! We talk about why people fall for musicians, what that does to their egos and personalities, and Ryan's personal experiences on how his life completely changed when he became a musician, including how being left on read was a thing of the past. Foll…
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OnlyFans & Sex Work In Today's World
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This week, I had actress, musician and OnlyFans creator Erika Heidewald on to discuss the recent takeover of OnlyFans by millionaire celebrities (Bella Thorne, Cardi B) and why they're attempt to help is actually harming sex workers and adding to the stigma. Erika and I also discuss how just because Erika has an OnlyFans, that doesn't mean she, or …
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