Love & Life is your place for conversations grounded in psych research, psychotherapy, and Biblical truth to help you THRIVE in love and life! Join psychologist Karin Anderson Abrell, Ph.D. and pastor and psychotherapist Elliott Anderson, M.A., as they focus on relationships and how to flourish therein with a holistic approach to emotional and psychological well-being, recognizing we only thrive when we nourish each of these key domains—Mind, Body, and Spirit. Together they bring over 60 yea ...
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Does America Need Marital Therapy? Techniques from Couples Counseling to Heal Our Division Ep. 329
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It struck him as he was working with his clients over the last several weeks. Americans are divided—much like couples in crisis are divided. We’re dysregulated from the trauma of an incredibly contentious election and thus, we’re now prone to slip into what Elliott calls the “3 A’s of Intimacy Destruction.” We Assume, Accuse, and Attack—just like s…
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Post Election Stress Disorder: Remaining Connected Despite the Division Ep. 328
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The election is behind us, but the division remains. And, the demonstrations are just getting going. Movements like 4B and Blue Bracelets express rage at men and Trump voters in general. Women are swearing off sex, shaving off their hair, and wearing bracelets to signify to each other who is “safe” to be around. Can we possibly remain connected dur…
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Post Election Processing: Managing Your Emotions & Considering the Feelings of Others Ep. 327
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With the election now behind us, Elliott and I wanted to share thoughts on how to navigate love and life post election—especially concerning our relationships. Because half the country is really happy with the results, while the other half feels angry, demoralized, and even afraid. Specifically, we consider: How do we build unity in the midst of so…
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Let’s Talk About It! The Misogyny of Progressives Ep. 326
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On a day when many Progressives will go to the polls to vote for a “woman,” I’d like to share a few thoughts around the misogyny inherent to Leftists’ ideology. Their logic breaks down immediately as they can’t define what a woman is. So, how can they get excited about voting for a woman hoping she’ll be the first woman president? 🤷♀️ They’ve alre…
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Why I’m Voting for “Hitler”: A COVID Dissident’s Response Ep. 325
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I know most people want to move on from COVID. And, maybe you’re ready to move on from the election. But, it’s all related—COVID, the election, and our platform of mind, body, & spirit. I have some thoughts. Plus, I’d like to explain why I’m voting for “literal Hitler” and his MAGA + MAHA team of courageous dissidents—RFK, Jr., Tulsi, and Elon. To …
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Gender Affirming Care for Children: Does it “Follow the Science?” with Psychiatric Nurse David Wayne Ep. 324
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It’s such a heated issue—and people on each side believe those who disagree with them are abusing children. In the last 10 years, we’ve witnessed an exponential increase in the number of kids who feel as if they’re the wrong sex. Although Gender Dysphoria Disorder remains a psychiatric illness per the DSM-5-TR, it currently is viewed quite differen…
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Let's Talk About It: Wife Guys? Masculinity Gets Political Ep. 323
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We’re in the midst of a series on masculinity, so I had to weigh in on this one, and I looped in Producer Tim to get a Millennial male’s take. You’ve probably seen the clip of Jen Psaki interviewing Kamala Harris’ husband, Doug Emhoff. Psaki claimed Emhoff has, “reshaped the perception of masculinity.” Really? Psaki then called him a “wife guy.” Ok…
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Faith & Politics: A Pastor’s Take on Voting Ep. 322
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Elliott and I didn’t grow up with a lot of political discourse. Our family delved into a wide array of topics, but as educators and musicians, we tended to discuss chord charts and pop tunes more than public policy. In fact, as most of you know, our father was a lifelong Democrat and our mother is a lifelong Republican. Yet, they possessed the same…
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Pandemic of the Unvaccinated? New Data on COVID Hospitalizations with David Wayne Ep. 321
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Psychiatric nurse and friend of the program, David Wayne, is back to discuss what he recently shared on Children’s Health Defense’s CHD.TV. In addition to nursing, Dave has a background in data analytics. Throughout the COVID era, he tried to make sense of the vaccinated vs. unvaccinated hospitalizations—the numbers weren’t adding up. Databases wer…
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Masculinity in the Midst of a Father Wound with Bradley Oberrieder Ep. 320
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Growing up is tough. Growing up with a father wound is even tougher. As we continue our series on masculinity, we’re addressing the complexities of father wounds on sons. How do boys grow into men when their model for manhood has been abusive or absent? One of Elliott’s mentees, Bradley Oberrieder, joins us to share his journey—how his father aband…
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Rescue the Republic: When BFFs Disagree as to How We Do This Ep. 319
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Dan and I are heading to Rescue the Republic in DC this weekend! I wanted to share Rescue the Republic’s 8 pillars with Elliott to hear his thoughts. War is always the last resort vs. Military Industrial Complex Sanctify/recodify informed consent vs. Medical Industrial Complex Banish state media control, surveillance and propaganda vs. Censorship I…
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Testosterone-Laden Men—A Bad Thing? Ep. 318
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Recently, I heard a term, “testosteroni.” It was used in a pejorative manner to describe “testosterone-laden” men. In the conversation, these testosterone-laden men were pitted against a kinder, gentler model of manhood. I wasn’t sure just what they were getting at. But, I had questions. Is testosterone inherently a bad thing? Does it cause problem…
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My BF Says I’m Trying to Control Him but He’s Going Out Drinking with Other Women… Ep. 317
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Q: I’m 34 and dating a 44-year-old man who rents out a room to a cutie 21-year-old for a very fair price and sometimes, he goes out with her and her friends and buys their drinks. I’m not sure how I feel about that. He believes it’s socially acceptable but I disagree and see it as predatory. But I also want to be understanding and I’m unsure if I’m…
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Pharma Dissidents: Abandoning the Medical Model of Mental Health with David Wayne Ep. 316
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As a psychiatric nurse, David Wayne believed wholeheartedly in the veracity of medical research and the necessity of pharmaceutical interventions—until he saw how ineffective and at times, harmful, these “treatments” were. He began to question his profession—especially psychiatry’s pharmaceutical “solution” for every mental health concern. Then COV…
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How Can We Be Friends if You Vote for _______? Ep. 315
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The election is upon us and the political divide—well, it’s probably better described as a chasm. So, we weren’t surprised to receive this question from a listener: “I’ve seen this rhetoric start to pop up on social media, leading into the election: ‘Don’t tell someone you love them, and then vote for someone who will hurt them.’ How do we deal wit…
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Abortions at the DNC: How This Relates to Our What is a Man? Series Ep. 314
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Elliott didn’t know about this—I’m way more into current events than he is—so I decided to inform him during our episode. I wanted him to share his thoughts as a therapist, husband, father, and perhaps most importantly, as a pastor. Abortion is a heavy, sensitive, and painful, subject—at least, it used to be. Clinton claimed it should be, “Safe, le…
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What is a Man? Part 3: Theology of Man Ep. 313
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Today Pastor Elliott and Producer Tim continue our series on "What is a Man?" In his work as a counselor and pastor Elliott has developed a thesis for what he believes makes up the theology of a man based on the book of Genesis. Specifically Elliott dives into the following topics: Accountability Responsibility Sacrifice Interdependence And how men…
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What is a Man? Part 2: Female Boxing Controversy at The Olympics Ep. 312
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As you’ve likely heard, last week Olympic boxer Imane Khelif beat Angela Carini in a bout that lasted only 46 seconds. Carini said of Khelif’s punch to her nose, “I’ve never been hit so hard in my life.” Controversy ensued because just last year, Khelif had been disqualified from competing in the World Boxing Championships in the women’s category b…
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Dying to Be Free! How to Take Charge in Oppressive Times with Dr. Leland Stillman Ep. 311
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Our world feels increasingly chaotic and morally inverted. And for those who remain skeptical and endeavor to think critically and rationally, it’s extremely overwhelming. As you know from episode 294 “COVID Trauma: How to Move Through Post COVID Stress Disorder,” Elliott and I have lost trust in many, if not most, of the institutions we once thoug…
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What is a Man? Part 1: A Tribute to My Father-in-Law Ep. 310
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My father-in-law passed away a month ago. We knew his death was imminent, so we weren’t caught off guard, but I was definitely surprised by the depth of my grief. I’d only known Max for 14 years and because I was in my 40s when I joined the Abrell family, I hadn’t had the years of connection with him. Yet my grief was significant and multifaceted. …
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Do These 3 Things TODAY to Level Up Your Mindset! Ep. 309
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As psychotherapists, Elliott and I obviously view love and life through a psychological lens. We take a holistic approach to love and life—underscoring the interaction of our mind, body, and spirit. Elliott takes this approach in his role as a pastor, too. He reads the Bible and interprets scripture through this lens. God designed psychology—meanin…
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Single and NOT Settling! with Vanessa Maree Ep. 308
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Please enjoy this conversation Dr. Karin had on the Single and Not Settling podcast! A note from Vanessa of Single and Not Settling: "This is absolutely a dream come true. I was so nervous throughout this interview as I could have pinched myself, achieving this goal of mine. You see in 2020 after I was ghosted and the world shut down, I found a pod…
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Americans are Getting More Therapy, but We’re Less Happy. What’s Going On? Ep. 307
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Recently, I read an article in Time Magazine titled, “America Has Reached Peak Therapy. Why Is Our Mental Health Getting Worse?” Obviously, the content was quite sobering. How is it that mental health awareness is up, stigma is down—and yet, we’re more depressed and anxious than ever!?! I knew I wanted to discuss the article with Elliott and share …
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Is it Better to Marry Younger or Wait a While? The Debate Continues! Part 2 Ep. 306
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No surprise, Elliott and I had plenty to say on this topic so we broke up the debate into two parts. In part 1 (ep. 304), Elliott and I tackled 3 questions: Are younger couples more at risk of codependency because they marry before their identities are sufficiently formed? Do older couples struggle to adjust to the division of labor and day to day …
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Is Anxiety in Blocking Your Goals in Love & Life? Move Through it with Strategies from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Ep. 305
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Recently Dr. Karin appeared on the Odyssey Resilience podcast to discuss dating and anxiety! From Odyssey Resilience: “Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell is a psychologist, author, podcast host, and musician. Her book, Single is the New Black: Don't Wear White 'Til It's Right is a word of empowerment to singles—encouraging them to stay strong amidst “single…
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